An Owner’s Prerogative

Journal Prompt from Submissive Guide Journal Prompts, August 20, 2012

Do you believe that owners owe their charges honesty? Are the slaves entitled to full disclosure of everything regarding their owner?

From the beginning, I felt I owed Sir privacy with respect to his life apart from our relationship.  I have always believed if it was important, Sir would let me know.  However this basic principle did not prevent me from asking questions, it is the subsequent answer that falls within his prerogative to provide.  I am not sure why or where this right to privacy came from but it has been there from day 1.  For myself?  I like to talk and Sir knows more about me than anyone in my life.

Communication is a necessity especially in the early days of a relationship.  I am astonished to think of the long talks we had about all aspects of our life and here I think I wasn’t inquisitive.  I did not know I needed what he provided anyway:  the information required to build that trust …  that he was someone I could trust with my body and know I was safe.  And because of his integrity and vast experience, he insisted I listen and absorb and not deny it was all not necessary .. just tie me up.  These discussions laid the foundation for our future relationship.  Sir told me what was important about himself because it was the right thing to do for my well-being.

Once Sir collared me, I felt even less of a need to know of Sir’s life but an increasing need to know him, the person, but now as his property, I feel even more strongly if he wants me to know something, he will tell me.  And he has over the course of our relationship told me many things of his life and sometimes I don’t realize it.  My constant lament is “You are an enigma!” but I do know him.  But am I entitled to know everything he thinks, feels, and experiences?  No I don’t believe that.  It is my place to trust him and to know he will act in the best interests for Us.  My emails may be peppered with questions about his opinion about a vast array of subjects but I feel if he doesn’t answer that is his prerogative.  But I am also trusting his judgment that his withholding information is once again the right thing to do and it is for the well-being of Us.  And in fact, I doubt he has the time to answer all my questions that I put in my emails.

Honesty is another matter.  It would devastate me if he told me an untruth.  Just as I am always honest and transparent to him, I expect that what he divulges to me is also honest.  Truth is the foundation of our relationship.  We recently had a discussion about my transparency and obedience when we are apart.  I would not only be hurting myself if I broke a rule and didn’t tell Sir but eventually the dishonesty would spread like a cancer to the rest of our relationship.  If the power exchange component wasn’t important to me, perhaps my rules wouldn’t matter to me.  But it is that directionality of our relationship that supports my conviction that disclosure may be one way but honesty goes in both directions.

About bonimiss

bonimiss only found her kinky side in her early 50s and thankfully found Sir shortly after. She is is a long distance journey with Sir and is constantly amazed at the new and exciting experiences and discoveries. You can contact her at bonimiss through the Submissive Guide Community.
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